You can’t be a little pregnant. You either are, or you aren’t. I wait for that feeling when I have to decide something life changing. The feeling when you have no doubt. You know. Not, “Oh, I think my boobs hurt.”
When you can feel it growing. That is when I make my move.

That is how you cook. Confidence. You have to get on the horse. Otherwise, what are you making? You are making who you are. You are making what you want. Work on it. Be clear. Then speak to it.